Another submission, from mistie

This is our next submission, from a reader named Mistie:

My mother in law is absolutely driving me insane. She is completely obsessed with my husband. She decided to wear a white dress that made her look like the bride to our wedding. Tried to take away a room reserved for her own sister for the wedding, (paid for by my parents.) To give to her thirteen year old son and his friend who wasn't invited to the wedding.

She was allowed to invite 30 relatives to the wedding to make her feel included. I was informed that I had to invite 60 which is more than my husband was allowed to invite total. My mother in law couldn't seem to drive the best man to the church due to driving her younger sons friend. We had to remove the best man for this. She expects us to send her all of our pictures however she didn't pay for anything except meat at the rehearsal dinner, which was done for her by relatives, and didn't send a wedding present.

She was over bearing when my husband and I were dating. On my birthday when I traveled twelve hours to be with my husband due to living in different states at the time because we are military members. She wouldn't even let me go get my hair colored without being in the car with us.

She showed up at my grandfather, (whom she never met.)'s funeral to look for my husband and hounded my parents at the funeral to go take them to see the church where we were getting married. She tried to alter my flower arrangements for my wedding even though she paid for none of it. The florist told her to leave and called me.

Now she plans on coming to visit us in a different state to see us. I have been warned this will be an unannounced visit. Everything except the birthday incident has happened in the past month someone please help me deal with this horrible woman.

Mistie, this woman sounds like she is in desperate need of attention. Is your father-in-law in the picture? You didn't mention him at all.

If your husband wants her in his life to some extent, then you'll have to tolerate her a little. But that doesn't mean she needs to walk all over you. You and your husband must set boundaries for her. And your husband needs to talk to her.

Has he tried talking to her, or does he cave when she whines? Is he a momma's boy, or does he know how to stand up to her?

What say you, readers? How should Mistie deal with her annoying mother-in-law

Obsessive MIL

Here we go with our next submission:

I've been married over 23 years and my husband is a good person. His mother, however, is always looking to cause trouble. My husband has a son from his 1st marriage and my MIL is obsessed with that son. The son is now 31 y/o and the biggest loser you'd ever want to meet...thanks to my MIL, who wouldn't keep her nose out of our business and had to rescue the child every time he was disciplined.

The MIL is not happy unless there is turmoil in the family. She's lies to create chaos. I've gone toe to toe with her, but it's a waste of energy because it does not change her bad behavior.

She talks trash about my sister-in-law, (her other son's wife). But that's not all...she talks trash about her son's too. Even the one who cuts her lawn and shovels her out in a snowstorm.

I'd like to take a cast iron frying pan and whack her across the face with it......

She refers to my son as a little bastard! My son works for a living and is a responsible person. My stepson (her favorite), has stolen from her, taken her car at will, pushed her around, called her nasty names etc. but he's treating like a king.

Never in a million years did I think a would have to deal with such a rotten human being.

Some people don't know how to live without chaos or drama. It's too bad that her choices have affected your family like this. It sounds like the most you can do is avoid spending time with her. That's too bad, as it sounds like she'll miss out with her other grandson.

Grumpy MIL

Here's our next submission:

My MIL's a f@#%ing grumpy. And loves her son (my hubby) too much like a baby (it's like she's still nursing him). So everytime we have problem my hubby always tells it to his mom like a baby and i'm always the one to blame. Asshole!!!! Go to h@ll you f@#$ing MIL.

I think we have some unresolved anger here, no?

MIL asks for too much

From the comments:

i am a husband age 28, my wife age 25. both of us get a low pay as a government servant. my mother in law ask a her daughter(my wife) an expansive things that we cant afford. recently she ask my wife to buy a car for her. that reallly distrurbing my minds. Its affected me financially, mentally and emotionally. HELP ME!

Any thoughts for this poor young man?

This was my response:

you and your wife need to talk this over. if you can't afford what your mother-in-law is demanding, be honest and tell her that. is there a cultural or religious tradition that expects you to buy things for your mother-in-law? if so, you need to discuss together how you will break with that tradition. you must present a united front.

Any other ideas?

Updating

Since people are finding us via search, I'm going to pull some items out of the comments and post them. You're welcome to add your story anonymously.

welcome!

Welcome to my mother-in-law sucks. I am starting this site as a place for women (and men!) to rant about their crazy, controlling, irritating mothers-in-law.

The postings will all be anonymous. You can send me your story, and I will post it for you. I will not reveal your name or e-mail or any other information. As I was talking with friends one day, we came up with this idea, similar to true wife confessions.

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Now, it's time to dish. Tell me, why does your mother-in-law suck?